Learn to generate your own warmth

One of my favorite writers, Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, talks about intimacy and relationships and why people are like porcupines. This was taken from the PBS Special, THIS EMOTIONAL LIFE, that ran earlier this month.

In this clip Gilbert talks about the "dance of intimacy".  I hope all us, will find a most beautiful dance of intimacy, open ourselves up completely to love and generate our own warmth in cold places and shine the light in those areas that are dark!

Turn Off The Lights and light a candle... Teddy Pendergrass has died

Well, we've lost another great entertainer today.  Sex symbol and contributor to the Sound Of Philadelphia... the sound I grew up on... Teddy Pendergrass... transistioned last night at the age of 59.  He was known for mixing R&B into passionate love ballads which made him the reigning sex symbol of 1970s and '80s.  If you were a woman... anywhere... but particularly in Philly... during the '70s and '80s you were in some kinda love with Teddy Pendergrass.  His car crashed in 1982 never stopped the singer from continuing to perform and wowing us with his vocals.  I worked for Teddy for a brief time when he launched his start-up company, TeddyBear Productions.  It was hard to see this sex symbol confined to a wheel chair but let me tell you this... it did not stop Teddy from being Teddy.  Married and settled down into his life in a laid out Philadelphia suburban home, he was still a ladies man and an amazing artist.  The company failed to live up to my expectations but Teddy did not.  Here's one of my favorite Teddy Pendergrass songs which reminds us "it's so good loving somebody when somebody loves you back"!

MTV.com reports One of the world's great soul men, singer Teddy Pendergrass, died at age 59 on Wednesday after a long battle with colon cancer. The Philadelphia Inquirer reported that Pendergrass, who was paralyzed after a 1982 car accident, died in a Philly hospital eight months after undergoing colon cancer surgery and suffering through a difficult recovery.

In his prime in the 1970s, Pendergrass was one of the premier R&B singers in America, leading Harold Melvin & the Blue Notes to the top of the charts with indelible soul classics such as "If You Don't Know Me by Now" and "I Miss You."

After leaving the Blue Notes in 1976, Pendergrass recorded a series of solo hits for the legendary Philadelphia International label into the 1980s, including his signature between-the-sheets hit, "Love T.K.O." Unlike some of the other velvety Philly-sound singers such as Al Green, Pendergrass' deep baritone had a gritty, masculine edge that he worked out on seductive slow jams like "Feel the Fire, "Close the Door," "Come Go With Me," "Turn off the Lights" and "It's Time for Love." He created a new template for the modern R&B singer with his aggressive brand of soul and his smooth, ladies'-man image on songs that were sexually charged but never coarse or vulgar.

The singer's life was forever altered in 1982 when he crashed his Rolls Royce in Philadelphia, leaving the then-31-year-old singer paralyzed from the waist down. After a year of rehabilitation, he returned in 1983 with the album Love Language and performed from his wheelchair at Live Aid in 1985, but his musical career would never regain its momentum. The powerful, seductive persona that Pendergrass had honed in his peak years had been diminished in the aftermath of the crash, as was the strength of his voice, but Pendergrass was not entirely deterred by his challenge. He continued to record sporadically throughout the 1980s, and in 1998, he formed the Teddy Pendergrass Alliance to benefit victims of spinal cord injuries.

We will miss you Teddy... rest in peace!

Life's problems wouldn't be called "hurdles" if there wasn't a way to get over them. ~Author Unknown