Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Why Women Should Flirt at Work

I love the disclaimer from Fastcompany.com: "This blog is written by a member of our expert blogging community and expresses that expert's views alone". Let me qualify that this blog doesn't necessarily express my views either. However, feel free to flirt with the author, Alicia, at www.aliciamorga.com. and you can flirt me right here on this blog. :-)

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Women in BusinessAlthough women make up half of the nation's workforce, they hold only 16.4% of corporate offices in the fortune 500, 14.7% of Fortune 500 board seats and 1.6% of Fortune 500 CEO positions (Catalyst 2007). Okay, you've heard all that before. What's new?


Research that explains what may be going on at work. According to researchers Tinsley, Cheldelin, Schneider, and Amanatullah, who authored "Women at the Bargaining Table: Pitfalls and Prospects" women are in a classic double bind: "women may be perceived as competent but unlikable or as likable but incompetent." This bind exists because there are very strong female stereotypes in our culture.


Of course this is not news to any woman in the field, but these researchers discovered that "women who violate gendered expectations incur negative social consequences. In other words, evaluators tend to make negative judgments about women who behave in masculine ways to fulfill the needs of their jobs."


But if masculine means assertive, self-reliant and powerful, you can see how easily a woman can get screwed in the eyes of her beholders. This is often referred to as backlash and because women fear backlash they often don't act in their best interests. The researchers found that both men AND women negatively evaluate women who do not behave in stereotypically female ways.


The choices then are these--work within the stereotypes or be careful in situations to not activate gender stereotypes.


The researchers point to an experiment that looked at flirting in a negotiation context. When both women and men flirted in the negotiation, women were perceived as more likable. As the researchers noted, because flirting is seen as more stereotypically feminine behavior, the women may have benefited from using it. Furthermore, the "flirting had no impact on the measure of the female negotiator's perceived competence, although it did diminish her perceived trustworthiness."


Further, the researchers found that gender stereotypes are usually not activated in contexts where resources are abundant ("Threats tend to heighten the negative stereotypes of both individuals and other social groups."), the woman is the boss or when women act for the benefit of others. Women acting for the benefit of others, like their teams, is consistent with the stereotypes we have of women, that they are collaborative and nurturing.


Not everyone works within gender stereotypes, but as they are subconsciously pervasive, the argument is that it's important to understand that these stereotypes are often at play. And hopefully that will help us level the playing field.

Read more at www.fastcompany.com
 

Monday, October 25, 2010

Falling in love takes one fifth of a second

Research now proves what I've been saying for years, a women knows within five minutes of meeting you if you're going to "get lucky". The only thing that will mess it up fellas... is YOU!

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It’s love at first fifth of a second, according to a new study. The research from a Syracuse University professor found that falling in love resembled the same euphoria experienced by those on crack. The whole process of falling in love, she discovered, takes all of one fifth of a second.


Full story at Science Daily.

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Infographic: The Many, Many Shades of Modern Love

If relationships were a flow chart, this is what it would look like...
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We always thought there were only two types of intimate relationships: monogamy and bopping everyone except your husband (or wife). But no!

Turns out there are dozens and dozens of them: serial monogamy, polifidelity, soft swinging, involuntary celibacy (aka every 14-year-old boy). The list goes on, and data viz king David McCandless and Laura Sullivan lay 'em all out in a handy flowchart here.



[Click image for larger view]

Obviously, this is something of a sendup of the elaborate pageant of modern love. The pastel colors and curlicue embellishments, which could’ve been pulled from the pages of a self-help book, are nothing if not ironic. We’re particularly fond of the marriage-divorce-marriage-divorce bubbles over there on the right. It’s like reading Liz Taylor’s bio. (It just needs about 50 more bubbles.)

For more recent coverage of McCandless’s excellent work see here, here, and here.

[Images via David McCandless]
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Grown Folk Talk on Men, Women and Relationships...

What Do Men Really Want?

Now What? is BACK! I decided to tackle an easy topic for the comeback episode "What Do Men Really Want" (insert sarcasm here.) I’ve been dating since I was 15 and I STILL don’t know what men really want. I’ve been told it is sex, food,  and for women to shut up… not necessarily in that order. Yeah, well, that's NOT gonna happen!

A women we’ve been empowered and we are comfortable in our own skin and in our role as sexually liberated career woman in charge of their own destiny. You may even hear women say, “I don’t need a man”. But, forget what you heard, we DO need a man. At least I do. Having claimed that premise, what the hell do these men really want? Usher sang “we want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed”.  Is that it? Is that the key to all this? Oh, I know, you’re going to say men just want to be loved, honored and understood. Really?

To help me tackle this broad is were the  Witches behind the widely popular blog, The Witches Brew.  Ranging in age from their mid-30s to mid-40s this group of feisty women added an amazing energy and sass to the show. Joining them are their fellas, the Ask A Dude© guys, who shed some interesting light on what men want. Plus, we had some very interesting decision going on in the chat room.

I'm not sure we figured out What Men Really Want but we had a great conversation and you'll enjoy this show as we talk about what men (and women) want in relationships. Enjoy!

          
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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Sistas, Love Every Part of YOU!

My sisterfriend posted this Facebook and I just had to share!

Sesame Street head writer Joey Mazzarino wrote this for his adopted daughter, Segi, when he noticed how - after she began playing with dolls - she started to dislike her own hair and began wanting straight, blond hair. Instead of ignoring the problem (and potential future self-esteem issue), he immediately told his daughter that HER hair was beautiful and then proceeded to reinforce that message with positive media images and messaging.   

Something we as black children (and adults) get very little of, if at all. This is soooo great, enjoy! 

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Another Diet Pill Pulled. Are You Ready For Holistic Weight Loss Now?

Come on folks, we know this... "permanent weight loss is not about the food. It's not about your weight. It is about your life". Start moving more, eat less, dine on whole, fresh, natural foods and you'll lose weight... period... end dot.
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Permanent weight loss is a holistic event. Life has an affect on the way you eat; your eating impacts on your health, relationships, creativity, spirituality - all parts of your life. If there is no internal change, no change in your thinking; then you may lose 'it,' but you will definitely find 'it' again.

After our session, I researched Meridia and found that there was a link between this drug and the risk of heart attack and stroke. In addition, I discovered that the drug had already been recalled in Europe, after a research report known as SCOUT (Sibutramine Cardiovascular Outcomes Trial) was published. I forwarded the information to my client.

Nevertheless, she went to her medical doctor at a well-known and well-respected clinic. She asked him for the drug. He whipped out his pad and prescribed it.

This week, the FDA announced a Meridia recall. The FDA determined that Meridia was too dangerous to keep on the market. The side effects of Meridia far outweighed the benefits. In fact, there was little evidence of actual weight loss from those who were taking this drug.

They called upon Abbott Laboratories to voluntarily pull the drug from the shelves. Abbott Laboratories released a statement indicating that while the company disagreed with the FDA's position, they would comply.
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Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Women dominate the PR industry: Why?

According to Public Relations Society of America (PRSA) numbers quoted in a Ragan.com story titled “Women Dominate the PR Industry: Why?,” nearly 85 percent of PR practitioners are women. And 73 percent of PRSA’s membership, which totals 21,000, are women. Still, there are inequalities. Women earn less than men, the story says, and 80 percent of top management is male.



Why do you think women gravitate to PR in such overwhelming numbers?
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Within the Public Relations Society of America, 73 percent of the membership is female, a spokesman said. The society includes 21,000 public relations and communications professionals nationwide, along with an affiliated student branch.

Diversity issues remain

Although those numbers may be encouraging for women, top management remains 80 percent male, said Wrigley, who has studied gender issues in the PR field. Minorities are still underrepresented. As in the workforce at large, women in PR tend to earn less than men do, she said.

“Any time a profession becomes feminized, salaries tend to become depressed and the status of the profession tends to go down,” Wrigley said, citing nursing as another example.

It’s not just PR. Pay inequality was highlighted recently by a recent Government Accountability Office report finding that female managers earned just 81 cents for every dollar earned by their male counterparts in 2007, compared with 79 cents in 2000.

Do women’s skills mesh well with PR?

In interviews and a forum on MyRagan.com, women suggested a number of reasons for this, while a few said they hadn’t noticed such a trend. Some suggested that women tended to be more skilled, others sought clues more intrinsic to females.

“I believe that women are more persuasive then men and can easily approach males and females easier than men can,” one commenter stated. “Something about women and their nurturing side makes people trust their judgments more.”

A male commenter objected to posted suggestions that women predominate in the field because more of them write well: “I think the individuals who commented on this forum implying women are better writers than men should absolutely be ashamed of themselves. What a horrible stereotype.”

In any case, the numbers bear out the impressions people get at PR conferences. Wrigley said women flock to PR because the entry-level skills match well with what they earn in educational areas with large representation of women, such as the humanities. Women have tended to be good at writing, presentation, event planning, and technician skills, she added.

Why are there so many women in PR? CEO Mark Ragan asks three vice presidents for their thoughts.

Top management still largely male

Several commenters in the MyRagan forum noted the pay disparities. But Debbie Mason, president of the Florida-based Strategists, Inc., which provides consulting in public relations and other areas, says she sees no sign of bias nowadays, because people already know she is a woman when they seek her services.

Previously she worked in a senior executive position reporting to the CEO in the corporate world, so she had established herself interacting with major figures in her company and other firms, she said. There she earned substantially less than her male peers.

“On the other hand,” Mason said, “I would have to say I tended to be at least a decade younger than everybody else sitting around the senior management table. So how much of it was reflective of age and experience and how much of it was gender, in my personal situation, I would find it hard to split that fairly.”

Another factor may play into the underrepresentation of women at the top, says Bolton. Those who make it to the top often must be keenly ambitious, and many of her students want a balance of career and family.

“Woman seem to have a good sense of knowing what is important to them, and now that we can have it all, we can choose not to,” she said.

Rising in the ranks

Others note that women are beginning to rise into top ranks. Caroline Hoenk, vice president at Insidedge in Chicago, has a nontraditional background, having earned a law degree at Notre Dame. She was drawn to PR after taking a course in crisis management.

“I think that that trend—if I look at my office structure—is starting to change, and we are starting to see more senior women in leadership roles,” she said.
Read more at www.ragan.com

If You Can't Beat 'em, Join 'em. Time Warner Decides Partners With Web Based Programming

A staggering stat (from Google) indicated that YouTube (owned by Google) has more content uploaded in 60 days then the three major TV networks broadcast in 60 years. It would stand to reason then that the networks would want to become play ball with Google. This is exactly what Time Warner Inc. is doing by playing ball with Google Inc. Not to be outdone, NBC Universal's CNBC network and the NBA also announced they would build Google TV software applications. The plan for Google world domination continues.
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The chief executive of Time Warner Inc. said he is turning to Google Inc. as an ally in his push to bring cable shows to users across various devices and that the Web giant's new service for accessing and searching Internet programming on TVs isn't the threat many television distributors fear.

Jeffrey Bewkes, who oversees a company that includes the TNT, TBS and HBO cable networks, also predicted a "massive amount of competition" for Netflix Inc. and Hulu LLC as more content owners make their TV shows available through operators on demand and online and as cable and satellite companies improve their experiences.

"When all of the content on the big screen works like the content on the little screen what will happen? The programming will trump the interface," he said.


[BEWKES]

Bloomberg News
Time Warner CEO Jeff Bewkes, shown in May, says content is still key.

Mr. Bewkes's comments come as media executives are agonizing over which new Internet distributors to supply shows to and whether to pursue new digital distribution methods on their own. Hulu and Netflix had no comment.

Time Warner has been championing a model it calls "TV Everywhere," allowing cable and satellite subscribers to watch the TV shows they pay for in their traditional TV bundles online, free.

Tuesday Mr. Bewkes said that Time Warner, which already has deals to enable Comcast Corp. and Verizon Communications Inc. subscribers to watch shows from its cable networks online, has or is close to finalizing similar deals with Dish Network Corp., DirecTV Group Inc., AT&T Inc. and other cable operators as well.

Monday, the company also endorsed the Google TV technology, saying it would optimize some of its television websites, including those of TNT, TBS and CNN, for viewing on TVs carrying Google TV. It said it would do the same with its HBO GO website, through which some viewers who subscribe to the premium cable channel can watch its shows online. The arrangement isn't a business deal.

Google is working with several partners to build televisions and boxes carrying its software. Logitech International SA plans to discuss its set-top box running Google's new software Wednesday.

NBC Universal's CNBC network and the NBA also announced they would build Google TV software applications that provide access to content like financial news and sports scores. Other television networks—including the major broadcast networks—have largely been mum about whether they plan to work with Google's service.
Read more at www.wallstreetjournal.com

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

This Little Known Tool Will Rescue You From Bad Dates

Dating in this new age of technology just got easier!!! Not only can I check in on Foursquare so my friends know where I am, but now I can have an emergency "get me the heck out of here" text sent to my phone. Truth be told, I don't really need an excuse... if the dates sucks I'm just going to roll on out... but for you kindhearted singles that need a little extra help... this one is for you! :-)
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Set up on a blind date and worried it will be a disaster so you plan an escape route and arrange to have your friend call your cell phone in the middle of dinner?  So 20th century.  The new solution?  It’s just a text away.  If you’ve ever been stuck on a date, bored in a meeting or just in need of a good excuse to leave, you’ll want to keep reading.



We bring you Rescu.me, a new, automated texting service and the 21st century solution to that age-old problem:  get me out of here!  Instead of having to pre-arrange a fake text or phone call to save you, Rescu.me automates the process and dispatches text messages and phone calls on demand.

The best news is, it’s easy.  Just store the Rescu.me number in your phone under whatever contact name will work best for your little escape route, i.e. boss, best friend, mom, whatever.  Then, before the big event, just send a text to the service dictating the text or call you want and when you want it.  You can also customize the text or voice message by including an alternative message in your request.

So when your date starts talking about his ex’s or your coworker starts revealing one too many details, you can just pull out your phone, show them the “emergency” text and voila, you’re off the hook
Read more at www.socialtimes.com

A Real Man


This comes to you from my sister via my aunt.  I just love the women in my family!



A real man is a woman's best friend.


He will never stand her up and never let her down. He will reassure her when she feels insecure  and comfort her after a bad day.
 
He will inspire her to do things she never  thought she could do; to live without fear and forget regret.
He will enable her to express her deepest emotions and give in to her most intimate desires.


He will make sure  she always feels as though she's the most beautiful woman in the room and will enable
her to be the most confident, sexy, seductive, and invincible.  

 No wait... sorry... I'm thinking of wine.
It’s wine that does all that.......

Never mind.

 ... and just when I was about to give up drinking!

The Housewives of Women In Tech

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

The price of falling in love: Losing two close friends?

It's a good thing I really only have five BFFs in the fist place because a fascinating news report coming out of the British Science Festival in Birmingham confirms the tried and true saying: You can't have it all. Specifically, you can't fall in love with a new romantic partner and simultaneously juggle ALL your close friends, which typically average five in number.

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At some point in your adult life, you’ve likely either witnessed or experienced firsthand how a new relationship can often leave little to no time for friends, resulting in a steady decline in the hangout department. And thanks to a recent study from Oxford University, we can now put some numbers on the phenomenon. According to the research, falling in love with a person will ultimately cost you (on average) two close friends.


“People who are in romantic relationships—instead of having the typical five [individuals] on average, they only have four in that circle,” explained Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary anthropology at Oxford. “And bearing in mind that one of those is the new person that’s come into your life, it means you’ve had to give up two others.”

There you have it. But guys, don't think that pulling out this article in conjunction with charts containing sad faces will make your not-so-single friend come running back. It doesn't work like that.


Full story at BBC News.

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How to Romance Your Readers Like a 5 Star Restaurant

Combining fine dining, romance and blogging... uh... does it get any better than this?

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romance.pngIf you’re trying to impress a date, nothing does it like a romantic multi-course meal. In the blogosphere, you’re not trying to romance anyone, but you are out to impress — and snare — prospective readers.


Intrigue, Don’t Bore


So impress; don’t bore them. Think of it like serving up a multi-course meal. Don’t freak out~just like you don’t eat that type of meal all at once, you serve up the most fabulous food by planning out a menu, making your grocery list and scheduling the cooking. You work behind the scenes like a fiend, perhaps sweating a bit in the kitchen. And then you present a scrumptious, mouth-watering meal to guests, making it look easy.


Serve Up A Memorable Experience


The reason customers return to a four-star restaurant is not just the quality of the food. It is the attention to detail. It is the personal greeting when you arrive. It is the escort to your table with a beautiful view. The pulling out of a chair so that you can easily sit….you feel the personal attention taking your experience up a notch. With a flourish, the maitre’d places a napkin on your lap. The waiter arrives and gives a polite introduction, inquiring what you would like to drink, acting as if you and your date are the most important customers in the restaurant. Meanwhile, the background music plays on, unobtrusive and elegant.


These actions add up to a beautiful experience. When someone visits your blog, you want them to have and remember a great experience.


Maybe you’re not going for an elegant impression. Perhaps you’re aiming to titillate and showcase your wide writing range and expertise, or to combine hilarity and blog tips. These are bloggers who leave a lasting, good impression on their readers, and have sticky blogs.


How do successful bloggers do it?


1. Whet the appetite with a perfect appetizer.


Set the stage with a creative and professional banner that showcases your brand. It’s the first thing a potential reader sees, and if it looks like an amateur did it, your readers might just click away.


If you go into a restaurant, and the ambiance is that of fine dining, complete with mood lighting, your expectations are set high. When the waiter starts describing the delicious, fresh buffalo mozzarella on heirloom tomatoes with basil chiffonade, drizzled with Italian balsamic vinegar, it ‘fits’ with the branding you’ve experienced to that point. You’re looking forward to eating what the chef whips up.


Just as some restaurants use candlelight with tablecloths and china (not Chinet), creating the right ambiance for a nice dinner, so too should you think about the first impression you give a reader with your banner. Does it reflect your brand well, and is it professional looking?


2. Stand out with a Salad


Hold the not quite ripe tomatoes, and stay your hand on the tasteless bagged carrots. Get out the awesome stuff that is really good.


The headline to your post should not be boring (duh). It should be creative and offer help or information your readers need. Here’s one headline that caught my eye on Yahoo….”Checking Out of the Grocery Store Faster, and With More of Your Paycheck In Hand.


Now that’s definitely a hot headline. Do I want to check out of the grocery store faster? Yes. Do I want to leave the grocery store for less money out of my pocket? Heck yeah! So I click to find out how to accomplish that goal. Voila. The headline did its job.


Remember, the headline that people see on Twitter, Facebook, or Google can determine whether they click on that link to read it. So entice them. Get click savvy. You can get your potential readers to ‘order’ your blog post.


3. Serve a memorable soup, not thin gruel.


What I mean is, make sure your opening paragraph isn’t dry as sawdust. Keep your reader’s interest by being unique, and engaging them with a targeted question. If you’re writing about dieting or nutrition, you could open with ‘Why do some nutritionists advise eating five small meals a day to lose weight? Does this work for you?”


Sometimes, adding just a few choice ingredients makes all the difference between so-so tomato bisque, and the most awesome, creamy, and delightfully different tomato bisque ever. There’s the tomato condensed canned soup made with milk, and then there’s the French chef’s secret recipe to knocking your socks off tomato bisque. If I’m going to order tomato bisque at a restaurant, I don’t want the ordinary. I want the extraordinary.


When people arrive at your blog and read your first paragraph, they’re going to decide whether to keep reading or not. Make sure they keep reading because you’re serving up the knock your socks off tomato bisque topped with crème fraiche.


4. Provide Entrees that Satisfy.


Would you rather have a perfectly grilled steak, baked potato and salad, or a microwave meal? They both fill you up, but one satisfies the senses more than the other.


It’s the creative analogies and cool stories to inform and entertain that people remember, and come back for more. There are so many ways to make boneless, skinless chicken breast into a meal, but there are a ton of ways to prepare and serve it.


Enlighten readers with your unique perspective on your topic of choice, impress them with how much your blog helps them (it’s your content strategy) and you’ll gain their gratitude and readership.


5. Dessert: Sweet Success


As your traffic grows (through your sweat equity online), and you’re getting to know more bloggers through networking, you’ll start to feel like you’re making progress.


Tasting the sweetness of success as a blogger only comes after a lot of hard work and long hours. In the beginning, you might feel like you’re only getting a lick out of the cookie dough bowl.


The first steps on the road to success are paved with small victories. Gaining loyal readers. Racking up Twitter followers and Facebook fans. Guest posting on a bigger blog in your niche. Before you know it, you’re further and further along toward achieving success.


You’ve planned your ‘menu,’ served up successful ‘meals’ (blog posts), and are continuing to network with readers and bloggers alike.


Cyberspace is interesting, though. Even meeting someone online doesn’t quite measure up to the real thing.  Face to face networking still rules.

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Weekly Whitepaper: How to Build the Business Case for Virtualization

This from the ReadWriteCloud channel, which is dedicated to covering virtualization and cloud computing, and

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vmwareintel.whitepaper.jpgWhat do you need to do to build a case for virtualization? It can be a cultural shift for a company to adopt virtualization. It requires different skill sets and an approach that turns a data center into a network that optimizes an infrastructure according to the principles of a shared infrastructure.



But there are steps you can take that provide executives with a clear path to return on investment.



It starts with telling a compelling story.








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Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Women Who Tech Presentation - Principles of Social Media ROI

I am having a great day geeking out at the Women Who Tech 2010 TeleSummit. I've learned so much from these ladies and I'm encourage by the amazing women who are on the cutting edge of technology. From super users to programmers, designers, coders and IT specialists, these women bring a special perspective technology and I love learning from them.

Women Who Tech: A TeleSummit for Women in Technology is the brainchild of Allyson Kapin, Founding Partner of Rad Campaign - an online communications firm that specializes in web design, development and online marketing for non-profit organizations and political campaigns.

Check out just one of the amazing the presentations from the TeleSummit by Lauren Varga, Beth Kanter and Roz Lemieux on Social Media ROI.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Only in Japan, Real Men Go to a Hotel With Virtual Girlfriends

In ATAMI, Japam. this resort town, once popular with honeymooners, is turning to a new breed of romance seeker... virtual sweethearts.

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In Love Plus, a Japanese dating simulation game, players experience young romance with a virtual girlfriend. Some have even taken their beloved avatars to an island resort -- a real island resort. WSJ's Akiko Fujita takes a tour of Atami.

Since the marriage rate among Japan's shrinking population is falling and with many of the country's remaining lovebirds heading for Hawaii or Australia's Gold Coast, Atami had to do something. It is trying to attract single men—and their handheld devices.

In the first month of the city's promotional campaign launched July 10, more than 1,500 male fans of the Japanese dating-simulation game LovePlus+ have flocked to Atami for a romantic date with their videogame character girlfriends.

The men are real. The girls are cartoon characters on a screen. The trips are actual, can be expensive and aim to re-create the virtual weekend outing featured in the game, a product of Konami Corp. played on Nintendo Co.'s DS videogame system.

Read more at www.wallstreetjournal.com
 

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Sure, you can spend the night... but first let me see your Foursquare STD badge!

In a move to bring awareness to testing for STDs, Foursquare has teamed up with MTV to create.... wait for it... a special STD badge. I can hear the date going something like this...



Him: "I really want to be with your tonight, baby".

Her: "Yeah, well I see you have a Player Please badge on Foursquare and now I need to see the GYT: Get Yourself Tested badge!"



The badge itself is lime green and black, with the letters "GYT" emblazoned in the middle. Now, I got tested last month (I'm clean as can be) but am I addicted enough to Foursquare to get tested again just to get the badge? Will I require a man who I'm thinking about being intimate with to have an GYT badge? Dating just got more complicated!



Foursquare users can go to their own health care providers, or they can find nearby clinics by visiting GYT's website at http://gytnow.org and entering their ZIP code.

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Getting checked for bumps, lumps, and rashes below the belt just became a bit more public thanks to an STD awareness campaign launched by MTV and Foursquare.


Foursquare users who check-in at an STD testing during the month of September earn special badge, and also help break down the stigma associated with sexual health screenings. MTV’s “GYT: Get Yourself Tested” campaign encourages safe sex practices and more open communication surrounding the taboo topic of venereal disease. Yes, the same MTV that has aired countless hours drunken promiscuity aimed at teens on shows like “The Real World” and “Jersey Shore.”


Full story at Yahoo.

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Thursday, August 26, 2010

Social Networking 12 Step Recovery Program

The Social Networking 12 Step Recovery Program. This list is based on the 12 step principles for those in recovery from addictive, compulsive, or other behavioral problems developed by Alcoholics Anonymous. If you are reading this blog you have taken the first step to recovery. Of course, if you're reading this blog you probably already have a problem... as do I.  But, have no fear, help is on the way!


1.       Step 1 - Admit we are powerless over our Social Networking addiction (we try to log off of Twitter, Facebook, Amplify, Foursquare and others but we just can't. We keep saying we're only going to check one more comment or respond to more reply and before you know if we’ve lost track of time and our deadlines have passed. YOU MUST BE WILLING TO SAY "Hi, my name is _________ and I'm a social networking Addict" or there is no help for you!)
2.       Step 2 - We believe that a Power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity (only God, a power failure or no access to WiFi can help us now!)
3.       Step 3 - We've turned our will over God (because it's going to take an act of God to get us off of these sites and there are more to join each and every day… will the madness ever end)
4.       Step 4 - We are taking moral inventory of ourselves (We take hard stock in ourselves and ask “how did this happened and why we aren't getting any work done”?)
5.       Step 5 - We admit to God, to ourselves and to others the exact nature of our wrongs (yes, I spend more time on Facebook commenting on my friend's walls than actually meeting with my friends... and I like it)
6.       Step 6 - We are entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character (or to have our Highspeed Internet provider cancel our service and give up our Blackberrys and/or iPhones whichever comes first)
7.       Step 7 - We humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings (before we lose our jobs, clients, friends and family members)
8.       Step 8 - We've made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all (that is... the dog that didn't get walked, the loved on who didn't get the pleasure of our company, the office work that didn't get done, the deadline we missed or the hobby we ignored)
9.       Step 9 - We've made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others (in other words, we make amends, but don't we do it via Twitter if that's going to cause us to spend even more time ignoring our deadlines, pets, family, friends, work, etc)
10.   Step 10 - We continue to take personal inventory and when we are we wrong, promptly admit it (we know we are going to get on the Twitter for hours.. but only after we have done our work and spent time with our loved ones. Wait... that's a little too radical.... let's just say we will keep our social networking visits to an amount of time that doesn't impede our daily activities… baby steps… baby steps)
11.   Step 11 - We seek through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God and acknowledge God's will for us and the power to carry that out (Dear Lord, please let me not ignore my obligations when I'm online... I DO want to have more than a virtual life).
12.   And finally...Step 12 - Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we carry this message to other addicts and promise to practice these principles in all our affairs. (We will let our friends know when they are spending too much time social networking and will not judge those who only check in once a week. Of course, to actually know THEY aren’t checking online WE have to be online and therefore the cycle begins again.)


This 12 step program is based on a real recovery program with a little humor thrown in to lighten the mood. However, if you are suffering from and actual addiction of any kind that is crippling your life please seek professional help or log on to www.12step.org for support. You won't find the Twitter, Facebook or Amplify there yet… listed but give it time... we will have our own, official support group in no time.
Now, go see one of your friends IRL will you please?  My name is Danielle Ricks and I'm a social networking addict.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Dating in a Digital World - Part II

From time to time I write about dating.  This is my second installment in my Dating in a Digital World posts.  This time I'm focusing on Internet Dating and Dating Protocols.  I have been reluctant to use an Internet dating service. I do pretty well on my own when it comes to dating (never at a loss to have a guy around) but I haven't made that real "love connection" with someone who wants to "love, honer and cherish me until death do us part".  Oh, there have been offers but the key is to find someone who you want to settle down with as much as they want to partner with you.

You would think I, of all people, a woman who works, plays and lives online would be all over Internet dating sites.  For some reason it's been a bit taboo for me. I live in DC where we THOUGHT the ratio of men to women was disproportionately in the guy's favor. Actually, according to SingleMindedWomen.com, an analysis of the major U.S. cities found that DC fell in line as the number two city for single women... who know?  The criteria for  Top 10 Cities for Single Women were as follows:

To earn a spot in the Top 10, an international airport was a requirement. Single-minded women want to be able to get there, wherever there may be, with ease.  Once we pared down our list, we examined industries and employers, and compared cost of living. We then looked at percentage of singles to the general population, as well as ratio of women to men. In addition, we explored venues for social activities, arts, sports, and other entertainment. We also looked at cities from the standpoint of healthy living, with good health taking into account body, mind, and spirit. Finally, we considered other aspects of lifestyle, such as aesthetics, personal style, and community support.

So, come to find out, there are plenty of eligible men in DC... and I'm going after the ones who want to settle down and build a life together. No more, dating for a decade with no ring, cheating boyfriends who don't appreciate me, unavailable men who claim they love me and finally, absolutely no more players!  I'm getting serious about my prospects and I've joined two Online Dating services. In addition, I've solicited my girlfriend as my modern day Yenta.  In fact, she is sending me on a date tonight.  We spoke on the phone for hours last night.  Seems like a nice enough guy... funny... well educated... innovative... homeowner... stable job... oh and, yes, I Googled him.  You can't be too safe these days.  Although this person has gotten the seal of approval from one of my BFFs, I thought it wouldn't do any harm to Google.  Thankfully, I like what I read.  Now I'm excited about my date.  

I'll let you know how all turns out.  This is giving me PLENTY of content to blog about.  So, Internet Dating Services... yes or no AND is it wrong to Google a guy before you go out on the first date?  Inquiring minds want to know. 


Internet Dating on 12seconds.tv

Thursday, August 12, 2010

The Clock Is Ticking: Watch a Second by Second Social Media Countdown

This is absolutly mind blowing information.  Now we must ask ourselves, how are we using social media for our brands, products, goods and/or services because clearly this train has left the station!

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Are Working Women Peanlized For Motherhood?

When I was working at a large (not to be named) corporation, I found that I was being penalized for not having a child. Employees with children got to leave early. "No", I can't stay and work late tonight" said Sally, "I have to pick up little Sammy from football". Or, "I can't be at the 8:30 AM meeting tomorrow, you know I have to drop off Kim at school". Then I'd hear from one of the Vice Presidents, "Danielle will do it, she doesn't have to rush home." Well, just because I didn't have a child waiting on a curb somewhere for me did NOT mean I didn't have a life I wanted to live after work.

Apparently, while working mothers (and fathers for that matter) may have gotten a "get of jail free" card to get out of some work responsibilities, this did not go unnoticed by the Executive team. According to this report from the TODAY show, it would appear that working mothers with children are also getting the short end of the stick.

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Study Shows Getting defensive is good for men — but not women

Apparently, defensive behavior makes men feel less stressed while women have opposite reaction. Clearly, if men would just admit we are right at all times then we wouldn't have a need to get defensive... I'm just saying! :-)

Amplify’d from www.msnbc.msn.com

You might think that defensiveness — which psychologists describe as avoiding, denying, or repressing information one perceives as threatening — would not be a good thing, and maybe even causes you stress. But a new Canadian study finds men may actually feel better, and less stressed, when they are more defensive. By contrast, women are better off not feeling defensive.



The details

The study of defensiveness and stress was carried out at the Montreal Heart Institute, where researchers evaluated 81 men and 118 women aged 20 to 64 years. In a laboratory setting, each participant was given stressful tasks to perform while being measured for both defensiveness and stress level, the latter by way of factors like heart rate, blood pressure, and salivary cortisol (a stress hormone). Turns out that men who were more defensive tended to exhibit fewer signs of stress, compared to less-defensive men. Whereas women showed the opposite response: Those who were more defensive showed more signs of stress, including
increased blood pressure and heart rate.


What it means

At face value — if seen purely in terms of defensiveness — the response among the men doesn't seem to make a lot of sense. You would think that defensiveness would equal greater stress in both genders, but it didn't in men, which may have been because they were also being assertive, explains psychologist and principal investigator Bianca D'Antono, PhD. And doing that may have been a de-stressor for them.

Read more at www.msnbc.msn.com
 

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

12 Secrets To Staying Young

I hate how youth obsessed the United States has become. Now, having said... let me contradict myself by sharing 12 ways women can turn back the hands of time and stay young or even better... live longer.
SelfP
The mythical fountain of youth discovered? No, even better! Self Magazine ways to live a longer, fuller life with help from antiaging guru Henry S. Lodge, M.D., author of "Younger Next Year for Women" (Workman Publishing). Complete this checklist to see if a few new habits could add years — and fun — to your life
1. How many hours per week do you exercise?
Ideal: At least 2.5
Why it matters: If you log two-plus hours of physical activity a week, you’re up to 30 percent less likely to die in the next 20 years than if you do less or none at all. Exercise — even if it’s frolicking in the surf or dancing to your favorite tunes — helps keep weight and blood pressure in check, lowering your risk for disease.

2. What is your body-mass index?
Ideal: Under 25
Why it matters: Active women whose BMI (a measure of body fat) falls between 18.5 and 22.9 may be 2.5 times more likely to age free of disease than overweight, sedentary women. Excess body fat secretes proteins and acids that can up your risk for cancer and more. A BMI below 23 is best, but less than 25 is good. Keep on movin’!

3. What is your waist circumference?
Ideal: Less than 35i
Why it matters: Having a middle less than 37.7 inches around cut women’s mortality risk by 23 percent compared with larger waistlines. Less than 35 inches is optimal, so skip trans fats — they can boost belly bulge — and go for avocados and yogurt, which may shrink bloat and tummy fat
4. What is your total cholesterol level? Ideal: Less than 200 mg/dl
Why it matters: 240 mg/dl and your risk is twice that of someone with levels below 200. And watch your LDL (“bad”) cholesterol: Above 160 is high and has been linked to increased rates of stroke and heart disease
5. How much fiber do you eat per day? Ideal: 25 g
Why it matters: For every 10 grams of fiber you add to your diet, you cut your risk for coronary death by 17 percent, according to a report in The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. Good sources: legumes (cup of lentils packs 7.8 g) and produce (1 cup of raspberries has 8 g).
6. How many hours of sleep do you get per night? Ideal: 7 to 8
Why it matters: Snooze fewer than six hours a night and you may be 12 percent more likely to die earlier than if you logged six to eight. Getting less than seven hours disrupts hunger-regulating hormones, causing weight gain and related concerns.
Read more at www.msnbc.msn.com

Stats Show iPhone Owners Get More Sex


Need more of a reason to get an iPhone?  Well, according to wired.com and a survey by dating site OK Cupid, your choice of smartphone directly links to your sex life.

According to OK Cupid’s survey of 552,000 user pictures, digital SLRs make you look more attractive, Panasonic cameras make you sexier than Nikons, while using a flash will make you look 7 years older, and large-aperture lenses make you hotter.

And iPhone users have more sexual partners than BlackBerry or Android owners. By age 30, the average male iPhone user has had about 10 partners while female iPhone users have had 12. By contrast, BlackBerry users hover around 8 partners and Android users have a mere 6.

Seriously folks, I don't make this stuff up!!!

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Tuesday, August 10, 2010

My Summer Reading

I'm usually reading at least three or four books at one time.  Here are two books that are on my summer reading list.  One book is to help your mind, body and soul and the other one is a quick beach read.  Here's what I'm reading now:

 Amazon.com Review
"The field of meditation has been not just a man's world but a monk's world," write Camille Maurine and Lorin Roche, Ph.D., who assert that the techniques that worked for "reclusive and celibate males" need updating for contemporary women. In Meditation Secrets for Women, they introduce a refreshingly modern, female-oriented approach to meditation that encourages "luxuriating in the sensory world, resting in the simplicity of your own being, enjoying yourself shamelessly." Meditation fills a need that women crave: to carve out time for themselves "to rest, to restore, to settle in." Rather than impose rules and strict discipline, however, the authors encourage women to rejuvenate themselves, open up, and affirm their "womanness" through meditation.

Meditation Secrets for Women presents 12 "secrets" in 12 chapters. Each secret is a theme, such as "celebrate your senses," "claim your inner authority," "ride your rhythms," or "love your body." Each chapter starts with a poem and includes explorations (questions for you to ponder), skill circle (practical tips for skill building), meditations, and reflections. This is a nurturing book, filled with acceptance, warmth, and encouragement. If you've tried to meditate but found it too restrictive, dull, or difficult, this book will give you a different, distinctly womanly, approach.

The authors are a married couple who have been teaching meditation to women for 50 combined years. Maurine is also a dancer and healing practitioner. Roche is the author of Meditation Made Easy. --Joan Price

From BooklistAt 28 years old, having survived a tortured childhood raised by a peripatetic lesbian mother and a career as one of the few black writers for the New York Times and the only one for Politico.com, Andrews has surpassed the stereotype of the strong black woman and been deemed “perfect girl” by a boyfriend desperately trying not to commit. Andrews offers a caustic and humorous running account of her life, mad texting her girlfriends about dates and career horrors, as she navigates the prickly terrain of a modern America getting used to a black First Lady and struggling to rethink its image of black women in general. She recounts adventures with her dog Miles, who apparently—to her embarrassment—hates black men, and her search for Mr. Right, including a date with President Obama's bodyguard. She also offers painful recollections of near-abandonment by her mother, later growing up the only black child on Catalina Island, watching The Cosby Show with longing. Fans of her acerbic wit will appreciate this collection of essays. --Vanessa Bush

Monday, August 9, 2010

New Study Finds That Being Attractive Can Adversely Affect A Woman's Career

I'm not exactly sure what "masculine sex-typed jobs" are but apparently, being attractive doesn't help women land these jobs. A new study finds that women who apply for "masculine" jobs are less likely to get the job if they are good looking. I guess it's a good thing I never wanted to be a buffalo wrangler, male stripper or gigolo because other than these professions I have NO idea WHAT they are talking about.
Amplify’d from www.medicalnewstoday.com
While many see no downside to being beautiful, a professor at the University of Colorado Denver Business School says attractive women face discrimination when it comes to landing certain kinds of jobs.  In a study released in a recent Journal of Social Psychology, Stefanie Johnson, assistant professor of management at UC Denver Business School, found that beauty has an ugly side, at least for women.  Attractive women were discriminated against when applying for jobs considered "masculine" and for which appearance was not seen as important to the job. Such positions included job titles like manager of research and development, director of finance, mechanical engineer and construction supervisor.

"In these professions being attractive was highly detrimental to women," said Johnson. "In every other kind of job, attractive women were preferred. This wasn't the case with men which shows that there is still a double standard when it comes to gender."  The study, co-authored by Robert Dipboye, professor of psychology at the University of Central Florida, Kenneth Podratz, an organizational development manager at UPS and Ellie Gibbons, research assistant at the University of Colorado Anschutz Medical Campus, found that attractive men suffered no similar discrimination and were always at an advantage.  According to Johnson, beautiful people still enjoy a significant edge. They tend to get higher salaries, better performance evaluations, higher levels of admission to college, better voter ratings when running for public office and more favorable judgments in trials.

A recent Newsweek survey of 202 hiring managers and 964 members of the public concluded that looks matter in every aspect of the workplace and they mattered more for women. When asked to rate nine character attributes on a scale of one to 10 with 10 being the most important, looks ranked third, above education and sense of humor, the magazine reported.  But in one narrow aspect of life, beauty can be a hindrance, something researchers have called the "beauty is beastly" effect.  "In two studies, we found that attractiveness is beneficial for men and women applying for most jobs, in terms of ratings of employment suitability," according to the study. "However, attractiveness was more beneficial for women applying for feminine sex-typed jobs than masculine sex-typed jobs."
Read more at www.medicalnewstoday.com

Thursday, July 29, 2010

QUOTE

Life is not about discovering our talents; it is about pushing our talents to the limit and discovering our genius. ~Robert Brault

How to Strike a Pose

This week we are celebrating the National Urban League (NUL) Centennial Conference in Washington, DC.  I had the pleasure of being able to hang out in the press room at NUL with some of my blogger and social media colleagues.  We were in attendance to blog about and live tweet for President Obama's speech on education reform.  With a couple of hours to kill before we would be escorted to the press pit, we started to do what we do best... take photos for our sites!  In a selfish, "I want my photos to look good" way, I started sharing some of my tips on how to pose for the camera.  Here are my top five photo op rules for the ladies:
  1. A slight tilt of the head can save you in bad lighting.
  2. Putting your hand on your hip will slim you down and  make you look smaller than you actually are.
  3. If you slightly bend your knee and point your toe you'll have a better silhouette
  4. Try to turn sideways rather than being shot straight on from the front if you are worried about your weight.
  5. When all else fails, a beautiful smile will make any picture look good!
Here are some photos of the ladies and I after we went over a few of the tips above.  Of course my photographer gal pal needed no direction... look at her pose.  I love it... and I'm so stealing that pose from now on!


Now get out there an strike a pose!